Conversation with Victoria at lunch

Victoria had a dr appt this week, and because she did well at it, we told her she could have McDonald's for lunch on Friday since there was no school. Then at school yesterday, she got an A+ on her test. Micah was going down for a nap, so Matt stayed home with him, and Victoria and I got to go.

About a minute after sitting down, she asked me, "Do you think I will be a good grown up?" I have no idea where she got this question from, and it was very rare, since 99% of the time she just tells us movie quotes. I told her I think she will be a great grown up, and asked her what she thought. She shrugged at the question. So, I went a different route.

Me: What kinds of stuff do grown ups have to do?

V: Cleaning and laundry and stuff.

Me: That's true, what else do they have to do?

V: Well, you have to take of Micah.

Me: That's true, but do all grown ups have kids? I was a grown up a long time before I had Micah. (I know what y'all are thinking, stop laughing.)

V: I don't know.

Me: What makes some one a grown up?

V: I have no idea.

Me: What else do grown ups have to do?

V: Get jobs. :( But I want to be a director.

Me: I know! What do you think it's going to take to be a director.

V: I don't know, a couple years I guess.

The conversation went on. It was a bittersweet conversation, and I'm not sure why. I think it's because I think about her future a lot. What will she be able to do? Where will she live? I try to just think about it, and not worry. I know for a fact that I, personally have very high expectations for her. I know she can do better than she thinks she can, so I am tough and strict with her. And she helped to remind me today why I am the way I am. I want her to be a good grown up.

Glowicki Fam Lately

First things first, Micah is a reader. He knows his name, however he thinks his name is Mikey. So cute. He reads some words in the Foot Book by Dr. Seuss, but his favorite book to read is Baby Bear, Baby Bear. What do you see? by Eric Carle. He says all of the animal names. It is precious and amazing.

Secondly, he eats a banana every morning, but he doesn't like the last bite. So he likes to leave it places for us to find. On our bed when Matt is still in it, behind our chair, and my favorite place Matt's work boot. Matt was rushing to get to work one morning, stuck his foot in is boot and smushed the banana piece. Better than coffee to get your morning going.

Victoria is doing pretty good. We had our appointment with a developmental pediatrician, and it went better than I could have ever dreamed. He spent 2 hours with Matt and I talking. Tomorrow we have our next appt. Soon we will be having a behavior therapist coming to the house to work with her. He is very interested in making a thoroughly thought out assessment of her and her needs. Long story short, we're hopeful and excited.

She has a had a couple of meltdowns lately, but snaps out of them quickly. She has anxiety and does not like it when we are upset with her, which makes it very hard to correct or discipline. I started talking to her about fixing her dirty clothes before putting them in the hamper and she started getting upset. I haven't quit figured out how to talk to her about things like that without upsetting her. "Buck up Victoria," doesn't seem to be working. Just kidding!

We are also trying to get Victoria to understand that we are her parents and not her cook/maid. She will come out of her room, say that she is hungry, and then try to go back to her room. We have no problem making/cooking her food, but we make her hang out with us in the kitchen while we are getting it ready. I am also working on in my head to start teaching her to make things by herself, besides PB&J. I firmly believe that she is capable of more than she thinks she is and more than she is doing. But I am also woken up everyday at things that she is unable to do by/for herself. And I just don't know if she is really unable, which is fine, or if she just needs to be taught and worked with.

Victoria and Micah are loving each other more and more every day. She spends dinner time trying to stump him, by asking him if he can say different words. It's cute. And they hug each other bye, and she even let him kiss her cheek. When she left for school this morning, I said, "say good bye to your sister." He walked up to her, "Huggy, huggy!!!!" Makes a Momma so happy!

I feel mentally tired everyday and always ready to go to sleep and turn off my brain. As I have said before, Micah takes up about 10% of my mental ability and 90% of my physical ability, and Victoria the complete opposite. At least they try to balance each other and me off. :)

I know I said this before, however, thank you everyone who reads this blog and supports our family in different ways.